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  • Writer's picturePatrick Norris

80. Scott Cone – Unwanted Sexual Drivers

Welcome to Episode #80 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Scott Cone, the founder of Sexcessful Men, a recovery coaching practice that helps Christian men who struggle with pornography, childhood sexual abuse, unwanted same-sex attraction, and other compulsive sexual behaviors.

Today we talk about unwanted sexual drivers. Our conversation takes us into the following:

  • Scott’s faith story and how he became a recovery coach.

  • Attachment styles as a foundation for sexual, financial, and “vision” forces.

  • What trauma is and how it impacts us emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.

  • How the arousal template is a battery of energy that drives our sexual preferences.

  • The commonalities between our sexual forces and our ambitions, money management habits, and more.

  • The Scriptural basis for these sexual energy pockets that originated in broken-heartedness.

  • How moments of distress in our present ignite unmanageable arousal from our traumatic past.

  • The similarities between our past traumas and our present searches for meeting our sexual needs (fetishes, scenarios, etc.).

  • How every “trigger tells a story” is worthy of being explored, rather than just repressed.

  • The power of fantasy exploration and understanding what fantasy is attempting to serve.

  • How pastors & leaders can lead themselves, their families, and their congregations better by exploring their own stories of sexual brokenness.

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Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

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